15 Ways to Deal with Anger

The best way to deal with anger is to avoid it in the first place.

We see a person react in a disagreeable manner but we have to remember, they aren't making a conscious choice to do so if they have any form of Dementia. They have lost the ability to control their emotions. As a result, we as caregivers, must try to control the environment which can cause outbursts.

1) Distract and divert attention away from the cause of anger.

2) Simplify things for them.

​ Talk slower and explain each step. Example: I'm turning on the shower. I will get it warm for you. Here's a washcloth with soap in it so you can wash your body.

3) Make choices for them but allow changes if they desire.

Pick out their clothing and decide what they will eat. If they disagree, offer a different option.

4) Accept that they cannot remember.

Don't insist they try harder to remember as this adds stress. They have a brain disease and can't remember. It's not a choice. It's scary for them when everything is new each day or hour.

5) Don't rush them.

Allow them to do things at their own pace. Hurrying them can result in a stress-induced outburst.

6) Avoid crowds.

Lots of noise, activity, and people, add to their confusion and agitation. Talk to them one-on-one instead of in a group discussion.

7) Offer one-step instructions.

Giving multiple instructions can cause them to forget all. Trying to focus on more than one is stressful. Once they have completed one step, then suggest the next.

8) Allow them to rest.

Being overly tired can cause agitation.

9) Adjust life for them.

If he can't button shirts, buy pullovers. Can no longer tie shoes, buy slip-ons. Never make them feel dumb or inferior. We have the ability to adjust, they do not.

10) Find some activities they can enjoy.

Adjust difficulty level to them. Everyone can get bored.

11) Always brag about their accomplishments.

We all love recognition.

12) If the patient is an adult, treat them as such.

Tell them what you are cooking and ask if it sounds okay. Give the impression they have control whether they actually do or not.

13) Label things to avoid confusion.

This includes everything from their pajama drawer to their hairbrush. I also label bathroom doors and closet doors.

14) Sometimes you must ignore objections.

Ex: They don't want to shower. Keep a calm, reassuring tone, talk about other things as you take them by the elbow, and gently lead them into the bathroom. Don't even acknowledge objections as you continue to calmly, quietly talk about the weather or whatever, while undressing them.

15) Offer other options.

If you don't want to do x, then we have to do y. Would you rather do y?

Bonus: Pray without ceasing. My God will supply your every need. Philippians 4:19

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